From Medicine Woman to Miracle Mom Part 2

The “purr-fect” inspiration
During her pregnancy, Seymour would go for sonograms, referring to the twins in her stomach as “this one and that one.” “I’d say, ‘How’s this one doing?’ and James would chime in, ‘What about that one?'” she recalls. “After they were born, we thought it would make a great children’s book, so we wrote a story about twin kittens who are named This One and That One.” They turned their idea into two books for Putnam Publishing, a line of children’s clothes and toys, and an animated movie, which is planned for a spring 1999 release.

“The books are autobiographical,” Jane explains. “There’s Jim, the big daddy cat, and Lady Jane, the mommy cat who’s an actress. One book ‘Splat!’ is about the twins’ love of painting and ‘Yum!’ is based on James’s passion for chocolate chip cookies.”

Jane’s tips for busy moms:
“People are always asking me, ‘How do you do it?’ Well, there’s no magic formula for being a good mother,” Seymour says. “I have the usual working-mother nightmares. I do lose my mind. You just have to learn to balance all the pieces of your life and have a good support team of friends and family to rely on.”

Set aside quality time
“We always have dinner together as a family,” Seymour says. “It’s the one time every day we can connect and communicate.”

Weekends are always work-free. “We play soccer, football, basketball, go horseback riding or picnic on the beach. James and I play golf and on Sundays, I paint. Weekends are for family.”

Prioritize
“Every morning, I make a list of everything I need to do. My kids are always top priority. I need to know where they are, who’s picking them up, who’s dropping them off. I have a nanny when I’m working, but even then, I’m very hands-on.”

Delegate
“You cannot do everything at once, so find people you trust to help you. And don’t be afraid to say no. I used to volunteer for every charity, every event. Now, I have just a few (UNICEF, ChildHelp USA and City Hearts) that I am affiliated with. I’d like to help everybody, but I just can’t. That doesn’t make you a bad person.”

Try not to worry too much
“You can spend every waking moment stressing or you can deal with problems and move on. I have a group of girlfriends I can always call to vent to and that helps. But sometimes, you just have to learn to let it go.”